Tips and Advice for Newly Single Parents, By Single Parents

Drawing from the invaluable insights and advice from our SPW members, we wanted to give some hope and insight for those at the beginning of their journey. We delve into the emotional nuances of the early days of single parenthood versus the wisdom gained over time. 

• “You will be ok. You can do this…”

• Overcoming the initial overwhelming feelings is possible. Strength emerges as you adapt to a new routine.

• Imperfection is acceptable; the focus should be on providing love, safety, and nourishment for your children.

• “Separation or divorce is not a new start, it's a reorganisation…”

• Emphasises the need for communication, especially child-focused.

• Advocates for cooperation and flexibility to benefit the children.

• Working on personal triggers is crucial for personal growth and a better co-parenting relationship.

• “Your children will be happier and healthier in homes where there is only love and no conflict…”

• Prioritising love and reducing conflict is key for the well-being of the children.

• Acknowledges that having two homes can be positive if they are filled with love.

• “You will be happier in a home with no stress…”

• Encourages a focus on personal well-being and the importance of a stress-free environment.

• “You will be happy again and the harder days become fewer and further between…”

• Positivity and happiness are achievable in the long run.

• Acknowledges that difficult days will diminish over time.

• “Try to focus on the good things about your ex and try to build a good co-parenting relationship…”

• Encourages a positive outlook on the ex-partner for the sake of co-parenting.

• Managing feelings towards the ex-partner contributes to a more relaxed environment for the children.

• “Use any days without your children to do what you enjoy…”

• Recommends self-care and pursuing personal interests during child-free days.

• Happiness in personal downtime positively impacts parenting.

• “It's only been about a month separated. I already feel more relaxed without him here even if the kids are hard work!”

• Early signs of relief and relaxation post-separation are possible.

• Acknowledges that challenges with the children are more manageable without the stress of the previous relationship.

• “Share your calm, don’t join the chaos…”

• Advocates for maintaining composure and avoiding unnecessary conflict.

• Creating a calm environment benefits both the single parent and the children.

• “It gets easier - you’ve got this…”

• Provides reassurance that the challenges will lessen over time.

• Confidence-building message to the newly single parent.

• “You think you can’t do it but you absolutely can…”

• Affirms the capability of the single parent to handle the challenges.

• Highlights the rewarding aspects of single parenting.

The journey of single parents, though challenging, is illuminated by the resilience, adaptability, and love shared by our SPW members. From overcoming initial overwhelming feelings to embracing imperfections and fostering a positive co-parenting relationship, the path may seem tough, but remember: "You will be ok. You can do this.